Didn't Take Long...
For that shit to fall apart.
Our bm is a scammer.
Her mom called the agency and told them she m/c. Our agency, which rocks, told C (the bm) that she has to go in and get checked by the dr and bring in sonogram pics before they would pay another dime of her living expenses.
Which she did. Which said today's date and that she was 10w5d.
Except she is supposedly 22 weeks.
Not sure whose sonogram that was, or where she got it, or maybe she lost the first baby and got pg again but it's no longer our problem as we disrupted the match.
Again.
Now I understand why people get fatigued and decide to live child free. That has got to be better than this. I truly, truly, cannot stand another minute of this. I am at a total loss what to do right now.
Perhaps this blog will become about my cat. Though of course she has feline leukemia so will probably also die soon.
It's Halloween, and I got a rock.
posted by R @ 5:07 PM
19 Comments:
That sucks. But I'm glad you found out before you got much further in...That really, really sucks.
I know right now you're hurting. Try to hang in there. You could just as easily be matched with the real deal next time. I'm rooting for you.
Came from Tracy's blog...
Im here rooting for you too.
Happy Halloween!
There's a special place in hell for scammers. Truly. I'm so sorry.
I can't imagine the thinking of someone who does that. Thank God you found out sooner rather than later--
Im so sorry this had to happen to you though
I'm so sorry.
I hope karma comes and bites that bm on the ass.
Came here from Lost and Found.
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry! That sucks so much I can't even believe it.
I can't imagine how someone could be so cruel as to scam on that. I'm baffled.
I hope your next match is a keeper.
I'm so sorry. As if you haven't already been through enough.
Such awful news. I'm so sorry.
i'm here via Mel's...
i'm so sorry. what a blow. Mel's right though -- there is a special place in hell for scammers like that.
I'm sorry. There is a special place in hell for scammers.
I'm SO SORRY! Came here through Lost and Found. We were scammed also. It hurts like hell, kind of like a miscarriage in that you are set to become a parent and it's snatched out of your hands through no control of your own. I hope you didn't lose to much money, although I'm sure your paying emotionally. My heart hurts for you.
that is terrible, i'm so sorry!
FWIW, our agency would not allow (or at elast strongly advised against) birthmothers to match prior to their 8th or 9th month. This preventative measure (1) reduces scamming risks, and (2) saves the hopeful adoptive parents from riding the roller coaster for such a long time.
Let me know if you'd like to know anything more...if I can help, I will.
I'm sorry you experienced this. It just sucks.
What a crappy thing to go through. I'm sorry.
I'm here via Mel as well. I can hardly believe someone would do that, it's really horrific. I'm so sorry for you and thinking of you. take care.
My God that is crappy. I'm so sorry.
I am so sorry to hear that. I can imagine how upset you must be. Hopefully the next bm will be yours!!!
I am visiting from Lori's blog. I am sorry about the recent miscarriage and the scammer.
I read your most recent post and if it was an early miscarriage it is very possible that the cells tested were yours and not the baby's. I don't know if that helps or not.
I understand preferring to live child free from shear exhaustion. I am still trying but have also had a couple of anxiety attacks (last was a couple of years ago).
I don't know if this helps either, but as time has gone on, I have found that you get better at coping and grieving even if the situation doesn't improve. You can be happy again.
Well, quite the little soap box speech from a stranger,huh? Take care of yourself.
I'm really sorry this happened.
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